Parents and loved ones

     When your child or your loved one is suffering from an eating disorder, it might seems sometimes hard to bring them support and to have a good communication. Here are some excerpts from the article that Tania K. Lemoine wrote for parents and loved ones. 

    Although there are a multitude of tips and guidelines that can be of help, it is important to know that communicating with someone at any stage of an eating disorder is quite difficult regardless of how diplomatic one may be.  The following notions are known to be helpful :

-          Timing is everything.  Choose a moment when all parties are calm and when the situation is not already escalated.  Do not have serious conversations around mealtime or over food.

-           Use “I” statements.  Talk about your own experience.  Placing the blame will only make things worse.

-           Be a united front.  Families and loved one’s need to stick together.  No matter your differences behind closed doors, communicate the same message of health and recovery when it comes to the eating disorder.

-           Distinguish the healthy self and the eating disorder self.  Do not tell your loved ones that you do not trust them, instead tell them that you do not trust their eating disorder.

-           It’s not about food.  Debating over food and nutrition is a losing battle.  Instead talk about your concern for their physical and emotional health due to the behavioral changes you have observed.

-           Be informed.  Do your own reading, preparing, reaching out, and sharing.  An informed communicator is always better equipped and more effective than one who is not.

-           Be yourself.  Authenticity is so important.  Showing your emotions and genuine concern without censorship is often the most powerful tool. 

     Eating disorders are not only conditions that affect individuals suffering from them, they also greatly affect the families and loved ones who surround these individuals in their daily lives. Don't hesitate to seek professional help or a support group to help you deal with the sadness, frustration, confusion, and feelings of powerlessness.  Remember, your emotional and physical health is of utmost importance. The BACA clinic is offering group therapy for parents and loved ones ( see Description of groups ).  

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